couth

1. N-UNCOUNT If you say that someone has couth, you mean that they have good manners and sophistication. 教养; 礼貌[美国英语]

Benny, you have no couth. 班尼，你真没教养。

2. N-UNCOUNT If you describe a person or their behaviour as couth, you mean that they are polite and sophisticated. 雅士; 彬彬有礼

That's the message, only put in a far more couth way. 这就是要传达的信息，只是需要以一种更加彬彬有礼的方式表示出来。